Building and Maintaining Relationships
1. Strong foundation- appreciation/respect happy couples focus on positives, say please and thank you.
Build- build a healthy patters early in the relationship.
Explore- Explore others interests so you have lots to enjoy together may find new things you like.
Establish- establish pattern of apologizing mistake on hurt feeling. partner will trust you more if he/she knows you will take responsibility for your words and actions.
2. Relationships Change- thing on the out side can impact what you want/need from the relationship.
Check in per calling- set a time to check expectations goals. do not ignore the relationship for too long if ignored the relationship is willing to drift into rough stage without notice.
3. Dealing with conflict- normally if resolved it can normally will make the relationship more strong. If you feel sad,anger,tensed about the relationship maybe due to unsolved problems in the relationship.
Communication- have a big decisions here are some big things you should have a big talk about in a relationship. sex,career you want to do,marriage,family.
Tips
understand each other family's patterns. how did they fight and how they resolve conflict problem's wont be the same try new things.
timing- have a cooling off time/ time out,have a clear head avoid impulse saying things not meant to say. give time to let things cool down so you can talk to your partner better.
atmosphere- emotional support accepting differences ,don't refuses partner to meet your needs. tell them right up but don't mean about it say how you want your panther to show there love for you.
Agree to disagree and so on .
talk about need's VS. wants with partner.
clarify messages- here how you can clarify a message by saying I would like you to hold my hand more often.
discuss one thing at a time- focus.
really listen don't interrupt listen to all what your partner as to say and clarify what you are saying.
restrain your self "edit what you say".
have a win win position goals is for relationship.
Great summary of notes. I few typos. What about the couple you focused on? Do they do any of these things well, which makes for a strong relationship or is their relationship successful for different reasons? Make this connection between "notes" and real life.
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